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Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Financial Planning for Special Needs Children with Britta Koepf

212: Financial Planning for Special Needs Children with Britta Koepf

212: Financial Planning for Special Needs Children with Britta Koepf

Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Financial Planning for Special Needs Children with Britta KoepfPlanning for a child is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it can also be quite the challenge, especially when that child has special needs. Financial considerations are crucial if you or someone you know is in this situation. This is what led me to my chat with Britta Koepf, a certified financial planner and special needs consultant who has dedicated her career to helping families navigate these complex waters.

In our discussion, Britta shares her expertise on the intricacies of financial and special needs planning, from setting up various types of trusts to exploring ABLE accounts. We dive into why it's so important to plan for multiple futures, given the unpredictable nature of special needs. Britta also stresses the importance of starting early and customizing plans to ensure your child can thrive without losing out on government benefits.

Tune in this week to pick up invaluable tips on securing your special needs child's future. Whether you're a parent, guardian, or know someone in this position, this episode is packed with practical advice and resources. We cover everything from understanding government benefits and insurance options to the role of financial advisors in planning for your child's long-term needs.

Learn more about Money for Women Physicians, an exclusive money coaching program to get your money and mindset working for you.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • How to set up different types of trusts for special needs children and their benefits.
  • The essentials of ABLE accounts and how they compare to trusts.
  • Why it’s important to plan for multiple futures given the unpredictable nature of special needs.
  • Strategies for ensuring your child can thrive without losing out on government benefits.
  • Key considerations for incorporating government benefits and insurance options into your financial plan.
  • Advice on working with financial advisors to secure your child's long-term financial needs.

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Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | What You Need to Know About Cash Flows with Nick True, Owner of Mapped Out Money

211: What You Need to Know About Cash Flows with Nick True, Owner of Mapped Out Money

211: What You Need to Know About Cash Flows with Nick True, Owner of Mapped Out Money

This week, Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | What You Need to Know About Cash Flows with Nick True, Owner of Mapped Out MoneyI had the pleasure of sitting down with Nick True, the founder of Mapped Out Money, to discuss the often overlooked world of cash flow management. Nick's journey into financial coaching started with a blog and YouTube channel back in 2015 where he and his wife explore the nitty-gritty of day-to-day financial planning. Unlike the often glamorized world of investing, Nick argues that mastering your cash flow is fundamental - it's the backbone that supports everything from budgeting to long-term financial security.

A common pitfall among high earners is neglecting cash flow. Nick’s approach isn't about being overly frugal, but rather about aligning spending with personal values and long-term aspirations. From the importance of tracking every dollar spent to the strategic use of some amazing tools, we discuss the transformative power of understanding where your money goes.

Tune in this week to learn how to navigate your financial journey with clarity and purpose. Discover why mastering cash flow isn't just about budgeting - it's about gaining the freedom to live the life you envision, without financial stress holding you back. Join us as we uncover practical steps to align your spending with your values, and to build a sustainable path towards your financial goals.

Learn more about Money for Women Physicians, an exclusive money coaching program to get your money and mindset working for you.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why mastering cash flow is crucial for long-term financial security.
  • Practical strategies to track and optimize your daily spending habits.
  • How to align your financial decisions with your personal values and life goals.
  • The benefits of using tools like the You Need a Budget (YNAB) app for effective budget management.
  • Insights into common pitfalls high earners face with neglecting cash flow management.
  • How to challenge your approach to money management and start building a path towards financial freedom.

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Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Navigating Long-Term Care Insurance with Wallis Tsai, CEO of Above Board Financial

210: Navigating Long-Term Care Insurance with Wallis Tsai, CEO of AboveBoard Financial

210: Navigating Long-Term Care Insurance with Wallis Tsai, CEO of AboveBoard Financial

Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Navigating Long-Term Care Insurance with Wallis Tsai, CEO of AboveBoard Financial

With many of us living longer lives, often with chronic illnesses, understanding long-term care is more crucial than ever. Wallis Tsai, the founder and CEO of AboveBoard Financial, is driven by a passion for ethical insurance practices. She transitioned from a high-powered role at Goldman Sachs to start her own independent insurance brokerage. Her mission is to provide transparent, informed guidance on long-term care insurance, a topic that can often feel overwhelming and confusing.

Wallis unpacks the evolution of the long-term care insurance industry, highlighting its tumultuous past and significant changes. She breaks down the various types of policies available today, from traditional long-term care plans to innovative hybrid policies that combine life insurance with long-term care benefits. Wallis shares her insights on industry challenges and pitfalls, like sudden premium hikes, and offers practical advice on making informed decisions.

Tune in this week to learn about the critical role long-term care insurance can play in your financial security and peace of mind. Wallis explains how AboveBoard Financial is setting a new standard with their transparent and client-focused approach. We also discuss practical tools, like cost analysis, to help you understand the expenses associated with long-term care in different regions.

Learn more about Money for Women Physicians, an exclusive money coaching program to get your money and mindset working for you.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • The evolution of the long-term care insurance industry and its significant changes over the years.
  • The differences between traditional long-term care plans and innovative hybrid policies.
  • Common challenges and pitfalls in the long-term care insurance industry.
  • Practical advice on when and how to start considering long-term care insurance.
  • Tools and tips for understanding the costs associated with long-term care in different regions and making informed decisions.

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Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Relax, Learn, Grow: Highlights from My Conference Journey

209: Relax, Learn, Grow: Highlights from My Conference Journey

209: Relax, Learn, Grow: Highlights from My Conference Journey

Wealthy Mom MD with Bonnie Koo | Relax, Learn, Grow: Highlights from My Conference JourneyI recently took a two-week trip to the Caribbean to attend several conferences, but this time, I was there solely as an attendee, which was a refreshing change from my usual role as a speaker. In fact, this new perspective allowed me to fully immerse myself in the sessions and absorb the wealth of knowledge being shared, some of which I'd like to share with you in this episode.

Throughout the trip, I participated in four unique conferences, each offering valuable insights and fresh ideas. From the Prosperous Conference by Semi-Retired MD hosts to an eye-opening discussion on AI technologies, I gained a deeper understanding of the latest trends and strategies in various fields. The location of the conferences, the speakers, and the topics we covered were all purposefully designed for relaxation and a focus on business and personal growth.

Tune in this week to learn about my key takeaways from these conferences, including the importance of staying updated with technological advancements, the benefits of attending mastermind groups, and the necessity of diversifying investments. Whether you're looking to enhance your business acumen or stay ahead in the ever-evolving tech landscape, this episode is packed with insights that will inspire and inform.

Learn more about Money for Women Physicians, an exclusive money coaching program to get your money and mindset working for you.

The 2025 Live Wealthy Money and Wellness Conference for Female Physicians is opening for registration on May 29th, 2024. Ensure you're among the first to secure your spot and save $500 by joining our waitlist now! Click here to join the waitlist and get exclusive access.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • Learn about the latest advancements in AI, including practical applications for business and customer support.
  • The importance of diversifying investments beyond the stock market.
  • The value of mastermind sessions and collaborative problem-solving with other entrepreneurs.
  • How to balance professional development with personal growth.

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The Wealthy Mom MD Podcast with Dr. Bonnie Koo | Money and Shame

93: Money & Shame

93: Money & Shame

The Wealthy Mom MD Podcast with Dr. Bonnie Koo | Money and Shame One of the biggest barriers that stands in the way of us making money, enjoying money, and ultimately having as much of it as possible is shame. So many women experience shame in various areas of their lives, so it’s time to talk about it so we can begin to change this story.

Shame brings up a lot of negative emotions, and negative emotion can never be a driver of positive change. When we feel shame or any negativity, it’s because we think there’s something wrong with us, and we generally try to make ourselves feel better as quickly as possible. We try to focus on something else instead, like Netflix. But what if there’s actually nothing wrong with you?

Tune in this week to discover the key to creating positive changes in your life. I’m sharing where our shame comes from so you can see how to stop beating yourself up and indulging in shameful thinking and self-judgment, especially around money.

Join me for Defining Wealth For Women Live, a FREE 30-day book club party! Hang out with me and other readers in our private pop-up Facebook group and get coached on topics from the book. I can't wait to see you there! 

If you're ready to take control of your money and practice medicine on your terms, you need to check out Money for Women Physicians. Click here to learn more!

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why women are particularly prone to shame, especially around money.
  • How not talking about money only perpetuates the shame so many women experience.
  • Why you can never make a positive change from a place of negative emotion.
  • Where your focus should be if you want to create lasting change.

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The Wealthy Mom MD Podcast with Dr. Bonnie Koo |

92: Women, This is Your Brain on Money

92: Women, This is Your Brain on Money

The Wealthy Mom MD Podcast with Dr. Bonnie Koo | I recently gave a talk at a physician wellness conference, specifically for physician coaches. So for this week, I’ve adapted what I shared in that live talk for the podcast, and it serves as the perfect manifesto for my why behind the work that I do, and behind my new book Defining Wealth for Women.

How much money do you want to make? For this episode, that question is going to be front and center because once you’re clear on what you want to achieve, I’m showing you everything that’s standing in your way, why it seems so out of reach right now, and how to start overcoming all of it.

Tune in this week to discover why making money and practicing medicine on your terms seems so difficult in this moment, and what your role is as a woman in creating change and normalizing making serious money.

If you’re ready to challenge your beliefs, completely transform how you think about money, and get excited about making a lot of it, I’m inviting you to join me for my virtual book club Defining Wealth for Women Live. There are going to be eight live calls, each coinciding with a chapter of my new book Defining Wealth for Women: Peace, Purpose, and Plenty of Cash.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why I decided to become a coach and help physicians make more money.
  • How our brains naturally get in our way when it comes to making a lot of money.
  • The 3 things your brain is naturally motivated by.
  • Where our historical socialization as women has us believing insidious messages about our ability to handle money.
  • Why now is the time to make a change and start what I’m calling the Women’s Wealth Revolution.

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What is a Self Directed 401(k) ?

Disclosure: Please note that some of the links below are affiliate links. This means that I may receive a commission if you purchase through one of my links. I highly recommend all of the products & services because they are companies that I have found to be helpful and trustworthy. I use many of these products & services myself.

Did you know that you can invest in other things besides stocks and index funds inside of your retirement accounts? How about gold or real estate? These alternative types of investments can be inside tax-sheltered accounts such as your Roth IRA or even solo-401(k). For this post, we will focus on self-directed 401(k)s, but similar principles apply to any other self-directed retirement account.

They are called self-directed because you direct the investments. You open a self-directed account at a custodian that allows them. These custodians are not companies like Vanguard or Fidelity. There is a long list of possible custodians, and I will discuss the one I went with.

Why should you consider opening a self directed 401(k)?

Since the Jobs Act of 2012, real estate syndications and crowdfunding are becoming popular investments. They offer the diversification of real estate without the hassle of direct ownership.

They come in two major flavors: equity and debt investments. Equity investments are where you own a share of the investment along with other investors. You reap the benefits of appreciation.

Conversely, with a debt investment or debt fund, you are loaning money so that other people can buy real estate. Returns vary but can typically range from 8% and up. However, these returns are taxed at your marginal tax rates unless you invest in a tax-sheltered account. This is a perfect scenario for opening a SD-401(k).

You can invest in actual properties inside SD-401(k)s, but for the most part, it is generally not recommended since directly owned properties have very favorable tax treatment.

So which custodians should you consider? There are dozens of self-directed custodians. Through my research I discovered a very unique product that I ultimately decided to go with.

Introducing the eQRP

The eQRP is a customized retirement program that gives you the freedom to invest in alternative investments such as real estate (direct properties, syndications, debt funds), precious metals, notes, oil & gas, including being a hard money lender.

Two things that are totally unique to the eQRP is ERISA protection and checkbook control. ERISA stands for the Employee Retirement Income Security Act of 1974. In short, it ensures certain protections to the account including from creditors. A regular solo-401(k) is not ERISA protected!

Checkbook control means exactly how it sounds–you can write a check from your eQRP account to purchase assets (or more likely via direct wire or ACH transfer). With an eQRP there is no middle man, you are in total control of your account.

It was very easy to set-up. So far, I have invested in a syndication deal with Alpha Investing, who I currently invest in for real estate syndications.  M opened an eQRP as well and we plan to use his to start purchasing rental properties.

To find out more about eQRP and if it's right for you, click here to find out more.

Let me know if you currently have and love your self-directed custodian!

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COVID-19 Pandemic Financial Resources & Information

This page will be updated as information changes. Please let us know if you find any errors and we will update this page.

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During these unprecedented times, there are several temporary changes that can affect you financially. In addition, the pandemic has highlighted for many of you the importance of being adequately insured and to make sure your estate plans are in place. We can never know when we will pass, but we do know it will happen at some point. The best time to do estate planning is now.

General

Breaking: Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security Act, or the CARES Act was signed into law on 3/27/2020

Highlights:

  • Ability to withdraw up to $100,000 from IRAs before age 59.5 without penalty and tax-free IF you re-contribute it within 3 years. If you do not pay it back within 3 years you will owe income taxes only and no 10% penalty.
  • Ability to take up to $100K loan from your 401(k), previous limit was $50K. It looks like you can defer repayments until 2021.
  • Suspension of RMDs (Required Minimum Distributions) for 2020
  • Student Loan relief for federal loans (see below)
  • Cash checks for qualifying individuals/families (most attending physicians will not qualify based on income). This phases out between $75,000 and $99,000 ($150,000 and $198,000 married) in adjusted gross income.
  • Increased unemployment benefits, including self-employed & contractors

Taxes

Now updated to include CARES Act that passed on 3/27/2020

The federal deadline for filing, making estimated payments, and extension payments is now 7/15/20 (from 4/15/20).

$300 above the line deduction for charity, even if you not itemize. This is for 2020 only.

Roth IRA contributions are also extended until 7/15/20. It also looks like this includes HSA contributions.

There are other provisions that are unlikely to affect most of my readers (real estate investor benefits, etc).

States are slowly deciding if they will extend their deadline or not, so be sure to check in with your respective state(s).

Insurances

Life Insurance

No changes for obtaining term life insurance except that some companies are waiving some or all of the physical exam and laboratory requirements depending on your application.

I’ve gotten questions from readers about whether the pandemic will affect term life insurance payouts. The answer is probably not. This is due to two major factors – the majority of the deaths will be older adults who no longer carry term life insurance and because most people are not insured.

Disability Insurance

Principal is currently waiving physical and laboratory exams for policies up to $10,000 (attendings only).

Guardian is also waiving physical and laboratory exams for those age 45 and younger.

Regardless, if you’re reading this and do not have your own-occupation disability policy, now is the time to obtain it. Here is a primer on disability insurance.

My recommended agents are:

Lawrence Keller of Physician Financial Services – (516) 677-6211

And

Stephanie Pearson, MD of Pearson Ravitz – (610) 658-3251

Estate Planning

Estate planning is top of mind for many folks. Here are some resources to guide you:

In Case of Emergency binder is 40% off right now. 

What is this? Would your spouse and loved ones know what to do when you pass? Do they know how to access your accounts and other important documents? That’s why you need a legacy binder. Death planning is, unfortunately, the high priority item that rarely gets done before your loved ones need it. It’s probably due to a combination of thinking you will have plenty of time to get to it and avoiding thinking about your demise.

Here is a blog post on the basics of estate planning.

I’ve partnered with Anderson Advisors for estate planning, specifically with creating a living trust. As a special bonus to my readers you will get free unlimited amendments to your trust.

Student Loans 

Certain federal loans will have some reprieve, specifically:

  • Direct Student Loans (Direct Stafford Subsidized, Direct Stafford Unsubsidized, Direct Grad PLUS, Direct Parent PLUS, Federally Held FFEL, Federally Held Perkins)
  • FFEL if federally held
  • Perkins Loans if federally held
  • 6 months suspension of loan payments and NO interest through September 30, 2020
  • These 6 months still count towards PSLF and other Income Driven Forgiveness programs

If you're pursuing PSLF – basically do nothing, payments will automatically stop (supposedly). If you're not but still have federal loans that qualify…then sit tight and DO NOT refinance privately…take advantage of 0% interest! This is a good source of extra cash right now.

No reprieve for those with private loans but rates are low now, so if it's been a while since you refinances, it's not a bad idea to see if you can get a lower rate. Get an additional 0.25% off when you refinance with SoFi and check out the other bonuses I have negotiated for you here.

On March 20, 2020, it was announced that student loan payments (for certain federal loans only) can be suspended for 60 days. You must contact your student loan servicer to put your loans into a 60-day forbearance with no payments as this is not done automatically.

Interest on federal loans are waived for 60 days as well.

There is no change for privately held student loans (most refinanced loans). However, with all loans you can apply for forbearance if you need to.

In proposal: The Student Debt Relief Act, would cancel $30,000 in student debt for borrowers. The forgiveness would also be tax-free, meaning it would not be taxed as income. For those who owe more than $30,000, the government would assume their monthly payments. Additionally, all efforts by the Department of Education to collect debts would be suspended.

Mortgage Refinancing

Rates are not going down and many lenders are experiencing bottle-necks due to increased demand and COVID-19.

It’s not a bad idea to take out a HELOC if you’re qualified, to have cash on hand.

Small Businesses

Here is a resource for those of you with small businesses (private practices included) detailing the recent changes to help you: https://gusto.com/blog/business-finance/coronavirus-relief-resources

Please contact me if anything is incorrect or if I should add anything to this page.

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The Freedom of a Locums Doctor

Today I have a guest post for you from my friend Dr. Cory S. Fawcett, the author of The Doctors Guide book series. His blog can be found at DrCorySFawcett.com. At the end of the article, there is a special treat for anyone interested in Locum Tenens. Be sure you check it out.

Many physicians are bemoaning the lack of control in medicine. It seems every year we lose a little more freedom, have a little less autonomy, and experience fewer choices. Locum Tenens can be a great way to counteract those losses. A great deal of freedom can be reclaimed by working in Locums.

Time Freedom

Since Locums does not tie you down to a particular location, practice or hospital, you can have newfound freedom in medicine. You can choose when to work and for how long. Conversely, you are choosing when to vacation and for how long. This is my favorite aspect of Locums work. 

Every assignment varies in length. A small assignment might be to cover a weekend that is left open in a call schedule. A short assignment is covering for a doctor who is on vacation and will be out of town for a week or two. Longer assignments may involve covering for a physician on maternity leave or medical leave while recovering from surgery, which could span six to twelve weeks. Temporary full time is also possible from locations searching for a new doctor who have an ongoing need until the position is filled.

With such variability, there is a great opportunity for a very flexible work schedule. If there are certain times of the week, month or year you want to be off, just don’t accept an assignment during that time period. You can take a break from your Locums work in July and August and play with your kids during their summer break from school. Or always take off December to do your Christmas decorating, partying, and shopping, then you will be free when your kids are off for Christmas break. The sky is the limit in choosing when to work and when not to work. Your only constrains may be your budgetary needs.

Location Freedom

If you are single, or your spouse isn’t tied down to a location-specific job, or your kids are homeschooled or away at college or grown, then Locums can give you and your family the ability to travel to locations you choose. 

Imagine getting paid to take your family on journeys all across the country, or maybe even to other countries. When you take an assignment, they provide you with housing while you are working. There is no reason your family cannot stay in that housing as well.

When I was a Locums Doctor, my kids were off at college and my wife was not working. We wanted to travel to each location together and explore the towns along the way. The accommodations that were provided always had room for her. If that was not the case, then I didn’t take the assignment. 

I made it clear to the recruiters that my wife going with me on every assignment was a requirement. That didn’t deter them from calling me with a great job opportunity in the South Pacific on a beautiful island. After my mouth was drooling at the opportunity for a paid tropical vacation, they let me know that the housing would not support spouses. I did not take that assignment.

If you want to take your entire family, then choosing locations that they will love, and that are close enough to drive to, is a big bonus. Driving gives you the ability to take a lot more stuff for the kids and avoids the purchase of multiple airline tickets that are not covered by your employer.

Driving was a requirement for me. I only took assignments within a twelve hour driving radius. I wanted to take my bike, other exercise equipment, special cooking items like our Foreman Grill, and musical instruments. My wife and I did what we could to make the temporary location feel like home. 

Freedom from difficult patients

With temporary jobs come temporary patients. As a surgeon, I sometimes picked up patients with very difficult chronic problems. Chronic pain, draining wounds, non-healing ulcers, and recurrent esophageal strictures were some of my difficult patients. These patients generated more phone calls from the nurses, and office visits were often unsatisfying because I could not solve the problem. I became a surgeon to fix patient problems and unfixable things frustrated me.

When I worked in my private practice, those difficult patients were latched onto me for life. Since all my Locums assignments came to an end in a very short time, any of these patients I picked up while on an assignment would be passed off to the next doctor when my assignment ended. With every assignment, I started and ended with a clean sleight.

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Freedom to live where we want

Another great feature of Locums is the ability to have a home base wherever we want. We are no longer tied to living where we are employed. If a doctor wants to live near their family in Springfield, Missouri, but there is not a job there, that is no longer a barrier. 

You can go ahead and have your home base in Springfield and do Locums work when and where you are needed. Later, if a job opening pops up in Springfield, you can take it without the need to move. 

I ran into one doctor who wanted to live in Portugal but did not want to practice medicine overseas. So, his Locums job was a recurring job in the states, ten consecutive days a month. He would fly in, work his ten days and fly back to Portugal to his home. Locums Doctors can live anywhere they want.

Freedom to work part-time

Locum doctors have the freedom to choose when and how much they want to work. If working halftime is preferred, then take assignments only half of the time. Working Locums gives the ability to create a schedule of your own choosing. It could be two weeks on and two weeks off, or one month on and one month off. Or, if you wanted, you could take full-time work for a while until the position is filled with a permanent physician.

Job flexibility freedom

Every specialty has different procedures and problems they encounter. Locums Doctors have the ability to choose which kinds of patients they want to see. As a surgeon working in small hospitals, endoscopy was a variable for me. Some hospitals require the Locums Doctor to do endoscopy, while others did not. If I didn’t want to do scopes, I just took assignments that did not have scopes as a requirement. If I wanted to do scopes, I needed to look for assignments that met my needs. The choice was mine and I tailored the Locums assignments I took based on my preferences.

Freedom to leave

When doing Locums, all the assignments are temporary. If you get started on an assignment and aren’t enjoying your job or the town, you can give notice and quit with no hard feelings. There is no reason for you to stay at a job you don’t like or with people you don’t want to work with. There is always another Locums assignment out there. Look at the notice requirements in your contract and give proper notice that you are not going to continue on after a specific date. Then find an assignment that better fits your needs.  The ability to change jobs easily is a big benefit that Locum Doctors have over doctors working in a permanent position.

Conclusion

Now you see the incredible freedom one has in doing Locums work. No full-time job can come close to these advantages. Full-time jobs do have other advantages that Locums don’t have, but that’s another story.

If you are considering becoming a Locums Doctor or are interested in a detailed presentation to see if becoming a Locums Doctor is right for you, then sign up for my online video course, The Doctors Guide to Thriving in Locum Tenens.

If you think Locums is something you want to try, or you need some help in making your Locums life better, don’t miss this opportunity to Thrive in Locum Tenens.

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10 Things You Need to Know About Prenups

Listen to Carrie & I discuss prenups over at the Hippocratic Hustle!

You have life insurance. You have disability insurance. But do you have divorce insurance? Probably not. But why? Last time I checked, the divorce rate isn't zero. Thankfully, doctors enjoy relatively low divorce rates–in the 25% range–but still, that isn't zero. In fact, you're much more likely to get divorced than become disabled or die over the next year.

Whether you realize it or not, you sign a legal contract when you get married. You also agree to your state's “one size fits all” prenuptial agreement if you don't have your own (aka a finely tailored suit). While prenups may still feel taboo, it’s time to start talking about them.

Here are 10 things that you need to know about prenups now.

# 1. Marriage is a Legal Contract

When you say, “I do”, you’re probably not thinking about marriage as a transaction. This isn’t the day of dowries, after all. But marriage is a legally binding contract. Because of that, marriage comes with certain rights and financial perks. Rights can vary a bit by state, but generally a marriage contract creates rights that include filing joint tax returns, inheriting property after a spouse’s death, and receiving a spouse’s benefits (Social Security, pension, etc.) after their death. Financial perks include unlimited gifting to each other, spousal Roth IRA and sharing the federal estate tax limit. Marriages also create marital property. That means that the property and income that you earn while married may become property of your spouse. How that share of marital property is determined is based on your state.

# 2. Marriage is State Specific

Location matters in real estate. It matters in marriage as well. Different states have different laws and rights surrounding both marriage and divorce. Different states have different requirements when it comes to getting married. Some states may require witnesses; others have periods of wait time between requesting a license and when it is finalized. What happens when you’re not legally married? Cohabiting is on the rise with more people holding off on officially tying the knot. While many people believe the myth that cohabiting together automatically creates a common law marriage, common law marriages are actually recognized by very few states and vary widely by state. Just like marriage varies by state, so does divorce. While divorce is often talked about as a 50-50 split, the way in which property is divided in the event of a divorces depends on the state in which the couple lives. Nine states are community property states where property is split in half, and the other states are equitable distribution states. In the case of equitable distribution, the court will decide on how property is split.

# 3. Divorce is a Weapon Of Mass Destruction

Marrying the right person can be hugely advantageous. This isn’t just about love and happiness, although those are supremely important, too. Marrying a spouse that you are compatible with not just emotionally, but mentally and financially, can have huge benefits. When your relationship is strong, you can work harder and more effectively toward goals, and you’re more likely to be able to weather any storms. While doctors are less likely to get divorced than other professionals, divorce does happen. And to borrow the words of The Happy Philosopherdivorce can become a weapon of mass destruction. Certainly, divorce can be devastating emotionally. It can ripple throughout your family and friends. It can also destroy your finances (like it did for this physician), which is why a prenup is actually to the advantage of both partners.

# 4. Understanding Alimony

In the event of a divorce, alimony can comes into play. This is especially true if one spouse is the primary breadwinner, which is a typical dynamic in doctor households. Alimony is intended to provide maintenance and support. Unfortunately, states will look at total income instead of the couple's actual spending to determine how much alimony will be due. If the court decides that you have to pay your former spouse alimony, it is either paid out in one lump sum or on a continuing basis. The new tax law makes alimony less palatable. Couples can also reach an agreement on alimony without going to court; but it is only valid if both parties agree.

# 5. Attorney Fees and Then Some

While you may have seen divorces advertised for as little as a few hundred dollars, most divorces become quite costly. An older Forbes estimate stated that divorces that become highly contested can cost $15,000 or even $30,000. Divorce becomes so costly if it is a particularly litigious battle, and that cost is primarily due to legal fees. In many cases, both parties involved in the divorce will retain lawyers. With divorce lawyers' hourly rates starting at $50-$75 an hour but easily clocking in at upwards of $300 an hour, it is easy to see how quickly these bills can mount. In addition to paying for lawyers, there is also a trial fee that has to be paid as well. The longer the divorce proceedings, the bigger the bill.

# 6. One Size Fits All?

Like clothes, a one-size-fits-all plan can often be a bad fit and an even worse idea. Without a prenup, you are at the mercy of two things: your state and the divorce court you end up in. In addition to deciding how your marital property will be divided based on the state you live in, a judge will also make other considerations, many of which will be based on precedents. That means that other people’s marriages and divorces could influence yours. If no two marriages are the same, neither are divorces. Try as we might, this one-size model just isn’t a good fit.

# 7. A (Cheap!) Finely-Tailored Suit

A prenup is like a finely tailored suit in that it provides a custom fit for your relationship. The key difference between this metaphoric suit and a real custom suit is that the metaphor is actually the real bargain. Divorces are messy, and without a prenup, you are really at the mercy of many different factors: legal teams, judges, state laws, precedents, and your former partner. Sometimes splits are amicable, but sometimes they are far from it. A prenup will spell out how assets should be divided in the event of a divorce, which should minimize the amount of court time and the legal fees.

# 8. Prenups ARE Romantic!

Romantic love is a modern concept. And people can and should marry for love. But there is nothing romantic about being reckless. While whirlwind romances look good on the big screen, they’re often not in real life. Taking some time to thoughtfully plan out your marriage and discuss your dreams, goals, and ambitions help put a solid foundation under your relationship. Crafting a prenup lets your partner know that you are hoping for the best for them while you are together and in the event that you break up. By crafting a prenup in advance, you and your partner are able to make decisions based on what is truly best for each of you instead of in the heat of the moment during a divorce. Calmer emotions and cooler heads prevail when it comes to finances, and planning for prenup is no exception.

# 9. A Worthy Investment

While discussing divorce doesn’t seem particularly romantic, it’s actually a really important way to invest in your marriage. But a prenup is just the beginning when it comes to investing in your marriage. In addition to being a contract, a marriage is a choice and a commitment that you and your partner make every day. Being married is hard work. Whether it’s taking time to go on dates or do small things for the other person or investing in couples counseling before situations get difficult, there are many ways to strengthen your marriage and keep it healthy. It isn’t always easy, and it isn’t always cheap. But it’s an investment that will pay dividends.

# 10. It’s Not Too Late

While the ideal time to read this post would be before you tie the knot, it’s actually not too late if you’re already married. In addition to prenuptial agreements, courts also recognize postnuptial agreements. A postnup functions similarly to a prenup in that it is a document that outlines how your assets will be divided in the event of divorce, but it is created after you are married. Speaking with a legal expert will help you understand how both prenups and postnups work in your state.

Final Thoughts on Prenups

When we talk about people being underinsured, we often think about homeowners insurance or auto policies. The truth is one of the biggest ways we are underinsured is actually related to marriage. A prenup isn’t setting your marriage up to fail. It’s a plan to keep you and your partner on the same page financially and to show your partner that you want the best for both of you if things don’t work out. Instead of thinking of it as taboo, maybe it’s time to start thinking of prenups as romantic.

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