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16 Weeks of Maternity Leave

moving and almost dying along the way. At some point (ok multiple points…) I was overwhelmed and probably met criteria for postpartum anxiety. I spoke to a psychiatrist friend who pointed out that I pretty much experienced all the top life stressors except death of a loved one (and let’s keep it that way!) within a 4 month period:

  • New baby (especially the first one)
  • Moving
  • New Job
  • Serious illness
She also pointed out that what’s especially hard for new mothers is that no one is taking care of us. We are always taking care of baby (and spouse). I feel lucky that my mother lives nearby enough and has been with us most weeks. [caption id="attachment_2092" align="aligncenter" width="503"] Breakfast of Champions – home cooked korean food[/caption] So, I decided to give myself a pass on pretty much everything. I stopped worrying too much about what I was eating. I stopped worrying about posting consistently on this blog. I stopped worrying (well not really) about my new postpartum figure. I stopped worrying about spending too much especially if it made my life easier during this time. I am still trying to worry less about the not fully unpacked apartment. Oh, and I finally figured out the biggest fallacy of “maternity leave” – nothing gets done despite not “going to work.” Throughout my leave I was often asked how are we able to afford taking 16 weeks of mostly unpaid leave (6 weeks paid at my old base salary was all I got). The answer is simple – we live below our means and we saved for it. Remember, you have about 9 months to save for maternity leave! In other words, we do not need our whole paycheck to live on. I stopped making extra payments to loans in favor of saving for this time. It definitely didn’t feel good to watch my checking account balance only decrease during this time, but seeing his face daily more than made up for it. [caption id="attachment_2095" align="aligncenter" width="370"] What are you looking at?[/caption] Isn’t this what it’s all about moms? I hope everyone about to have a baby can have the freedom to spend more than the typical 4-6 weeks of doctor maternity leave. What do you think? Comment below!]]>

10 Comments

  1. Hatton1 on February 8, 2018 at 7:57 am

    The real stress is not the pregnancy but caring for the new baby. You certainly have gone through a stressful time. Hopefully things will calm down.



    • Miss Bonnie MD on February 9, 2018 at 8:50 am

      I have an easy baby too and it is still a lot of work! I can’t imagine if I had a colicky baby or a baby who didn’t sleep all night!



  2. Quynh on February 8, 2018 at 9:59 am

    Welcome to motherhood! I don’t have any kids yet but am planning to in a year or two. One of my colleagues said that she buys short term insurance and gets paid during maternity leave. She’s on her third pregnancy now. Have you heard of that? I need to look into that for next year. I also need to move closer to my mom. Grandmothers are the best, aren’t they?



    • Miss Bonnie MD on February 9, 2018 at 8:48 am

      Sounds like short term disability insurance. Generally not worth buying. My paid leave was through STDI from my last job (employer paid).And you can’t buy it right before the baby, lots of rules. Generally better to self insure.



  3. Laura on February 8, 2018 at 10:52 pm

    What a cutie! Congratulations. I agree, moms should be able to have more time at home after delivering or adopting a baby. Our society does not value this. As you have just experienced, this time is hard, emotional, exhausting, and it takes time to recover, let alone return to a demanding job. I took 5ish weeks with my first as that was all we could afford just out of training and hubby still in grad school, 2 months with my last since we could save up ahead of time.



    • Miss Bonnie MD on February 9, 2018 at 8:49 am

      Yes definitely a bit backwards here compared to most of Europe…I honestly am now amazed at all the physician moms out there now!



  4. RocDoc on February 9, 2018 at 12:36 am

    Whar a cutey! I hope you are doing better health wise.



    • Miss Bonnie MD on February 15, 2018 at 7:14 am

      Thank you! And yes I am pretty muck back to normal.



  5. PiggyBanki on February 27, 2018 at 10:16 am

    I don’t know how you guys do it in the States with hardly any maternity leave.. At 12 weeks I was still soooo tired! I managed to take 7 months (5 fully paid and 2 partially paid) but most mums here in Germany take 1 full year. I think it is so unfair that some people can only take 6 weeks! I am glad you were able to take at least 16 weeks, you need that time to take care of your baby and to prepare yourself for your new life.
    Good luck with all, I just found your blog by chance and I will definitely keep on reading more posts 🙂



    • Miss Bonnie MD on February 28, 2018 at 6:46 am

      Thanks for stopping by! Yes it is unfortunate.



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