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The Freedom of a Locums Doctor

Today I have a guest post for you from my friend Dr. Cory S. Fawcett, the author of The Doctors Guide book series. His blog can be found at DrCorySFawcett.com. At the end of the article, there is a special treat for anyone interested in Locum Tenens. Be sure you check it out.

Many physicians are bemoaning the lack of control in medicine. It seems every year we lose a little more freedom, have a little less autonomy, and experience fewer choices. Locum Tenens can be a great way to counteract those losses. A great deal of freedom can be reclaimed by working in Locums.

Time Freedom

Since Locums does not tie you down to a particular location, practice or hospital, you can have newfound freedom in medicine. You can choose when to work and for how long. Conversely, you are choosing when to vacation and for how long. This is my favorite aspect of Locums work. 

Every assignment varies in length. A small assignment might be to cover a weekend that is left open in a call schedule. A short assignment is covering for a doctor who is on vacation and will be out of town for a week or two. Longer assignments may involve covering for a physician on maternity leave or medical leave while recovering from surgery, which could span six to twelve weeks. Temporary full time is also possible from locations searching for a new doctor who have an ongoing need until the position is filled.

With such variability, there is a great opportunity for a very flexible work schedule. If there are certain times of the week, month or year you want to be off, just don’t accept an assignment during that time period. You can take a break from your Locums work in July and August and play with your kids during their summer break from school. Or always take off December to do your Christmas decorating, partying, and shopping, then you will be free when your kids are off for Christmas break. The sky is the limit in choosing when to work and when not to work. Your only constrains may be your budgetary needs.

Location Freedom

If you are single, or your spouse isn’t tied down to a location-specific job, or your kids are homeschooled or away at college or grown, then Locums can give you and your family the ability to travel to locations you choose. 

Imagine getting paid to take your family on journeys all across the country, or maybe even to other countries. When you take an assignment, they provide you with housing while you are working. There is no reason your family cannot stay in that housing as well.

When I was a Locums Doctor, my kids were off at college and my wife was not working. We wanted to travel to each location together and explore the towns along the way. The accommodations that were provided always had room for her. If that was not the case, then I didn’t take the assignment. 

I made it clear to the recruiters that my wife going with me on every assignment was a requirement. That didn’t deter them from calling me with a great job opportunity in the South Pacific on a beautiful island. After my mouth was drooling at the opportunity for a paid tropical vacation, they let me know that the housing would not support spouses. I did not take that assignment.

If you want to take your entire family, then choosing locations that they will love, and that are close enough to drive to, is a big bonus. Driving gives you the ability to take a lot more stuff for the kids and avoids the purchase of multiple airline tickets that are not covered by your employer.

Driving was a requirement for me. I only took assignments within a twelve hour driving radius. I wanted to take my bike, other exercise equipment, special cooking items like our Foreman Grill, and musical instruments. My wife and I did what we could to make the temporary location feel like home. 

Freedom from difficult patients

With temporary jobs come temporary patients. As a surgeon, I sometimes picked up patients with very difficult chronic problems. Chronic pain, draining wounds, non-healing ulcers, and recurrent esophageal strictures were some of my difficult patients. These patients generated more phone calls from the nurses, and office visits were often unsatisfying because I could not solve the problem. I became a surgeon to fix patient problems and unfixable things frustrated me.

When I worked in my private practice, those difficult patients were latched onto me for life. Since all my Locums assignments came to an end in a very short time, any of these patients I picked up while on an assignment would be passed off to the next doctor when my assignment ended. With every assignment, I started and ended with a clean sleight.

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Freedom to live where we want

Another great feature of Locums is the ability to have a home base wherever we want. We are no longer tied to living where we are employed. If a doctor wants to live near their family in Springfield, Missouri, but there is not a job there, that is no longer a barrier. 

You can go ahead and have your home base in Springfield and do Locums work when and where you are needed. Later, if a job opening pops up in Springfield, you can take it without the need to move. 

I ran into one doctor who wanted to live in Portugal but did not want to practice medicine overseas. So, his Locums job was a recurring job in the states, ten consecutive days a month. He would fly in, work his ten days and fly back to Portugal to his home. Locums Doctors can live anywhere they want.

Freedom to work part-time

Locum doctors have the freedom to choose when and how much they want to work. If working halftime is preferred, then take assignments only half of the time. Working Locums gives the ability to create a schedule of your own choosing. It could be two weeks on and two weeks off, or one month on and one month off. Or, if you wanted, you could take full-time work for a while until the position is filled with a permanent physician.

Job flexibility freedom

Every specialty has different procedures and problems they encounter. Locums Doctors have the ability to choose which kinds of patients they want to see. As a surgeon working in small hospitals, endoscopy was a variable for me. Some hospitals require the Locums Doctor to do endoscopy, while others did not. If I didn’t want to do scopes, I just took assignments that did not have scopes as a requirement. If I wanted to do scopes, I needed to look for assignments that met my needs. The choice was mine and I tailored the Locums assignments I took based on my preferences.

Freedom to leave

When doing Locums, all the assignments are temporary. If you get started on an assignment and aren’t enjoying your job or the town, you can give notice and quit with no hard feelings. There is no reason for you to stay at a job you don’t like or with people you don’t want to work with. There is always another Locums assignment out there. Look at the notice requirements in your contract and give proper notice that you are not going to continue on after a specific date. Then find an assignment that better fits your needs.  The ability to change jobs easily is a big benefit that Locum Doctors have over doctors working in a permanent position.

Conclusion

Now you see the incredible freedom one has in doing Locums work. No full-time job can come close to these advantages. Full-time jobs do have other advantages that Locums don’t have, but that’s another story.

If you are considering becoming a Locums Doctor or are interested in a detailed presentation to see if becoming a Locums Doctor is right for you, then sign up for my online video course, The Doctors Guide to Thriving in Locum Tenens.

If you think Locums is something you want to try, or you need some help in making your Locums life better, don’t miss this opportunity to Thrive in Locum Tenens.

Investing in Your Romantic Relationship May be One of the Most Powerful Decisions That You Ever Make

Editor's Note: This is a guest post by a fellow Wealthy Mom MD, Dr. Ali Novitsky. She is the CEO of Lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com.  She is a certified life and weight loss coach, board-certified pediatrician, board-certified neonatologist, blogger, national speaker, and host of the podcast, “Life Coaching for Women Physicians.”  Dr. Ali runs The Life Coaching Society, a monthly membership experience for women physicians to prioritize their themselves in a supportive community setting. 

Let’s face it, relationships can get complicated…if we let them.  You see, we have the power to simplify our relationships by understanding a few key concepts.  It is in this simplification that we can find peace and happiness.  

Before we go on, I do want to make one important point.  Not all relationships are meant to survive.  There are some situations where drugs, alcohol, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and ongoing affairs may be involved.  These factors may prevent any further relationship investment.  And this is 100% acceptable.  The beauty is that YOU GET TO DECIDE.

The concepts that I am about to share will allow you to think about your relationship in a whole new way.  The goal is for you to see what a true investment in your relationship looks like.  I will also provide real strategies for you to start using today.  Sound too good to be true?  Read on.

“Why Does My Partner Get on My Nerves?”

If you’ve ever found yourself frustrated with your significant other, the first concept that is essential to understanding your frustration is appreciation of “The Manual”.  I did not invent the concept of The Manual – I learned about it during my training at The Life Coach School with Brooke Castillo.  And- it has changed my marriage.

Let me elaborate.  I always believed that I had a great marriage.  We started as friends, we fell in love, we then started dating, and the rest is history.  But let me back up.  No relationship is perfect.  Sometimes I would get frustrated when I started to think that Mark should be acting in a certain way.  

I came to appreciate that my line of thinking: “Mark should be acting in a certain way” caused me to feel FRUSTRATED.  With this frustration, I was short-tempered with Mark.   I perceived Mark’s behaviors as him not prioritizing our relationship or undervaluing me and started to have negative thoughts about myself.  I can remember thinking, “I’m not important.”  And, as I result I believed that Mark SHOULD act differently so that I could feel important.

The Manual is an invisible script that lists certain expectations that we have for another person.  Here is the problem.  When this person does not meet these expectations (Spoiler Alert: Usually they won’t), we become disappointed.  By keeping a Manual for another person, you are releasing all of your power. Why?  Because you are allowing the other person to make you feel a certain way or not feel a certain way.   

So what can we do?  We can literally throw away The Manual.  That’s right- toss that bad boy in the trash.  When we release the expectations we have for another person, we cannot be disappointed.  By throwing away The Manual, we are saying, “I love you exactly the way you are.”

Sound too good to be true?  Throwing away The Manual is 100% effective, however, holding onto this script is our tendency.  I challenge you to make this investment, guaranteed to be worthwhile.

Investing in Unconditional Love with a Positive Mindset

If we throw away the Manual, then we are able to love the other person unconditionally. Practicing unconditional love is the second tool I want to offer for you to use as you create your relationship portfolio.

I want to explain unconditional love.  When we feel love, it is not the other person that is sending this feeling to us via radiofrequency.  The feeling of love is generated from within us.  We feel love when we think thoughts about the other person that is allowing us to feel love.

Here is an example.  If you think the thought, “My spouse shows up everyday at work so he/she can provide for our family,” you may feel loved.  Do you see how you are generating the feeling of love because you are thinking certain thoughts about the other person?

You can choose to feel love anytime you want.  When you choose to feel love, then your actions will reflect that feeling of love.  Your result will be that you truly appreciate your spouse for his/her hard work which will allow you to generate more and more unconditional love.  This investment will benefit everyone.

"You can choose to feel love anytime you want.  When you choose to feel love, then your actions will reflect that feeling of love." -Dr. Ali Novitsky MD Share on X

Maybe you are having a hard time accepting the concept of unconditional love.  I understand. Perhaps your significant other does something that really bothers you.  Let me give you an example.  Perhaps your spouse makes it a point to comment on other attractive people constantly. You find this hurtful.  

Communicate More Effectively by Setting Boundaries

Let me introduce you to investment number 3.  Setting a boundary.  Setting a boundary is something that most of us do not do.  This boundary, when set appropriately, will allow you to communicate a rule to your partner.  When you set a rule verbally, you do not have an invisible Manual, but instead a clear guideline of what you expect from the other person.

It is very important that you understand how to set a boundary.  If the boundary is not set properly, then you will dig a deep hole.  Why? Because you will not be taken seriously.

To set a boundary, here are the exact steps to follow.  Your partner says, “did you see that beautiful woman who just walked in, she is unreal.”  You will then say, “when you make comments about other women in front of me, it is hurtful.”  Your next statement should go as follows.  “If you continue to make these comments in front of me, I will walk away from you.”

Remember…if your spouse continues to comment on other women, then you must stick to the boundary you set and walk away.  By investing in boundary setting, you truly simplify things. You are being 100% open about what you expect.  This will increase your feeling of empowerment in your relationship.  This feeling of empowerment is because you believe that you are standing up for yourself- and you are.  Setting a boundary is increasing your perceived value in the relationship. Now that’s an investment.

What is Your Partner’s Love Language?

What about love language?  The 4th worthwhile investment in your relationship is understanding your partners love language.  Here is why this investment is so important:  By understanding your partner’s love language, you are opening up the channels for communication.  How so?  When you invest in showing your partner his/her love language, they will think thoughts that make them feel loved.

Here is an example.  Let’s say that partner A’s love language is physical touch.  Partner B’s love language is giving gifts.  If partner B recognizes that partner A likes to be touched, and he/she provides physical touch, then partner A will feel love.  

Partner A may be thinking, “my significant other cares about my needs.” The love that partner A feels will very often result in actions that will make partner B feel love.  If partner A recognizes that partner B likes gifts and brings home flowers, partner B will feel love because he/she is thinking, “my significant other cares about my needs.”

Do you see how understanding your partners love language sets the stage for great communication?  Why? Because it eliminates some of the barriers that would prevent good communication. 

The next investment is probably the most difficult one.  It may feel like a risky investment because you will need to put your ego aside and allow yourself to be vulnerable.  

Rewrite Your Story by Letting Go of Pain from the Past

Investment Tip #5 is letting go of pain from the past.  If we decide that our relationship is worth keeping, then we have to be willing to let go of the past.  If we do not let go of the past, then we will carry resentment and not be able to move on to a better place.

It may seem impossible to let go of the past in certain situations.  So, how do you even start?  The first step is to have an honest and open conversation with your significant other so you both can express your side of the story. 

The next step is to process.  Processing all of this information can take days, weeks, months, or even longer.  In fact, you may need to invest in professional help through therapy or life coaching to guide you through this process. 

When the time is right, the strategy is to rewrite the story.  You will rewrite the story in a way that allows you to release resentment.  This release will allow you to glide into the future with hope.  This investment is a powerful tool in saving your relationship.

I do think it is important to know that if you do not feel that you will ever be able to rewrite the story, then what you may need is time.  On the other hand, you may decide that the story should not be rewritten.  This is strong evidence that you may be ready to move on.  

Scheduling Time for Your Relationship Every Week Will Pay Off

Finally, the 6th investment is making time.  Scheduling dedicated time to your relationship is similar to contributing a fixed amount of money every pay period into a retirement account.  Every time you commit to special 1:1 time, you are inviting intimacy into your relationship.  Over time, this intimacy builds and you have comfort in knowing that you are accumulating collateral.

We are all very busy.  You may be thinking that setting time aside may feel impossible for you.  I want to encourage you that it is quite possible. The trick to making this happen is to simply put it on the schedule.  I highly recommended making time once per week to connect with your significant other.  My best advice is to keep it simple.

Start small.  You do not need to make these investments all at once.  Decide which investments speak to you.  Most importantly, open your mind and consider how a shift in your thoughts can bring high dividends to your relationship everyday.

To learn more about Dr. Ali Novitsky, check out Lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com and The Life Coaching Society, a monthly membership experience for women physicians to prioritize their themselves in a supportive community setting. 

10 Things You Need to Know About Prenups

Listen to Carrie & I discuss prenups over at the Hippocratic Hustle!

You have life insurance. You have disability insurance. But do you have divorce insurance? Probably not. But why? Last time I checked, the divorce rate isn't zero. Thankfully, doctors enjoy relatively low divorce rates–in the 25% range–but still, that isn't zero. In fact, you're much more likely to get divorced than become disabled or die over the next year.

Whether you realize it or not, you sign a legal contract when you get married. You also agree to your state's “one size fits all” prenuptial agreement if you don't have your own (aka a finely tailored suit). While prenups may still feel taboo, it’s time to start talking about them.

Here are 10 things that you need to know about prenups now.

# 1. Marriage is a Legal Contract

When you say, “I do”, you’re probably not thinking about marriage as a transaction. This isn’t the day of dowries, after all. But marriage is a legally binding contract. Because of that, marriage comes with certain rights and financial perks. Rights can vary a bit by state, but generally a marriage contract creates rights that include filing joint tax returns, inheriting property after a spouse’s death, and receiving a spouse’s benefits (Social Security, pension, etc.) after their death. Financial perks include unlimited gifting to each other, spousal Roth IRA and sharing the federal estate tax limit. Marriages also create marital property. That means that the property and income that you earn while married may become property of your spouse. How that share of marital property is determined is based on your state.

# 2. Marriage is State Specific

Location matters in real estate. It matters in marriage as well. Different states have different laws and rights surrounding both marriage and divorce. Different states have different requirements when it comes to getting married. Some states may require witnesses; others have periods of wait time between requesting a license and when it is finalized. What happens when you’re not legally married? Cohabiting is on the rise with more people holding off on officially tying the knot. While many people believe the myth that cohabiting together automatically creates a common law marriage, common law marriages are actually recognized by very few states and vary widely by state. Just like marriage varies by state, so does divorce. While divorce is often talked about as a 50-50 split, the way in which property is divided in the event of a divorces depends on the state in which the couple lives. Nine states are community property states where property is split in half, and the other states are equitable distribution states. In the case of equitable distribution, the court will decide on how property is split.

# 3. Divorce is a Weapon Of Mass Destruction

Marrying the right person can be hugely advantageous. This isn’t just about love and happiness, although those are supremely important, too. Marrying a spouse that you are compatible with not just emotionally, but mentally and financially, can have huge benefits. When your relationship is strong, you can work harder and more effectively toward goals, and you’re more likely to be able to weather any storms. While doctors are less likely to get divorced than other professionals, divorce does happen. And to borrow the words of The Happy Philosopherdivorce can become a weapon of mass destruction. Certainly, divorce can be devastating emotionally. It can ripple throughout your family and friends. It can also destroy your finances (like it did for this physician), which is why a prenup is actually to the advantage of both partners.

# 4. Understanding Alimony

In the event of a divorce, alimony can comes into play. This is especially true if one spouse is the primary breadwinner, which is a typical dynamic in doctor households. Alimony is intended to provide maintenance and support. Unfortunately, states will look at total income instead of the couple's actual spending to determine how much alimony will be due. If the court decides that you have to pay your former spouse alimony, it is either paid out in one lump sum or on a continuing basis. The new tax law makes alimony less palatable. Couples can also reach an agreement on alimony without going to court; but it is only valid if both parties agree.

# 5. Attorney Fees and Then Some

While you may have seen divorces advertised for as little as a few hundred dollars, most divorces become quite costly. An older Forbes estimate stated that divorces that become highly contested can cost $15,000 or even $30,000. Divorce becomes so costly if it is a particularly litigious battle, and that cost is primarily due to legal fees. In many cases, both parties involved in the divorce will retain lawyers. With divorce lawyers' hourly rates starting at $50-$75 an hour but easily clocking in at upwards of $300 an hour, it is easy to see how quickly these bills can mount. In addition to paying for lawyers, there is also a trial fee that has to be paid as well. The longer the divorce proceedings, the bigger the bill.

# 6. One Size Fits All?

Like clothes, a one-size-fits-all plan can often be a bad fit and an even worse idea. Without a prenup, you are at the mercy of two things: your state and the divorce court you end up in. In addition to deciding how your marital property will be divided based on the state you live in, a judge will also make other considerations, many of which will be based on precedents. That means that other people’s marriages and divorces could influence yours. If no two marriages are the same, neither are divorces. Try as we might, this one-size model just isn’t a good fit.

# 7. A (Cheap!) Finely-Tailored Suit

A prenup is like a finely tailored suit in that it provides a custom fit for your relationship. The key difference between this metaphoric suit and a real custom suit is that the metaphor is actually the real bargain. Divorces are messy, and without a prenup, you are really at the mercy of many different factors: legal teams, judges, state laws, precedents, and your former partner. Sometimes splits are amicable, but sometimes they are far from it. A prenup will spell out how assets should be divided in the event of a divorce, which should minimize the amount of court time and the legal fees.

# 8. Prenups ARE Romantic!

Romantic love is a modern concept. And people can and should marry for love. But there is nothing romantic about being reckless. While whirlwind romances look good on the big screen, they’re often not in real life. Taking some time to thoughtfully plan out your marriage and discuss your dreams, goals, and ambitions help put a solid foundation under your relationship. Crafting a prenup lets your partner know that you are hoping for the best for them while you are together and in the event that you break up. By crafting a prenup in advance, you and your partner are able to make decisions based on what is truly best for each of you instead of in the heat of the moment during a divorce. Calmer emotions and cooler heads prevail when it comes to finances, and planning for prenup is no exception.

# 9. A Worthy Investment

While discussing divorce doesn’t seem particularly romantic, it’s actually a really important way to invest in your marriage. But a prenup is just the beginning when it comes to investing in your marriage. In addition to being a contract, a marriage is a choice and a commitment that you and your partner make every day. Being married is hard work. Whether it’s taking time to go on dates or do small things for the other person or investing in couples counseling before situations get difficult, there are many ways to strengthen your marriage and keep it healthy. It isn’t always easy, and it isn’t always cheap. But it’s an investment that will pay dividends.

# 10. It’s Not Too Late

While the ideal time to read this post would be before you tie the knot, it’s actually not too late if you’re already married. In addition to prenuptial agreements, courts also recognize postnuptial agreements. A postnup functions similarly to a prenup in that it is a document that outlines how your assets will be divided in the event of divorce, but it is created after you are married. Speaking with a legal expert will help you understand how both prenups and postnups work in your state.

Final Thoughts on Prenups

When we talk about people being underinsured, we often think about homeowners insurance or auto policies. The truth is one of the biggest ways we are underinsured is actually related to marriage. A prenup isn’t setting your marriage up to fail. It’s a plan to keep you and your partner on the same page financially and to show your partner that you want the best for both of you if things don’t work out. Instead of thinking of it as taboo, maybe it’s time to start thinking of prenups as romantic.

Unmarried Couples: Financial Pros and Cons

The number of unmarried couples are on the rise. Many of you know that I am not married. The main reason is due to being a blended family. Many couples are choosing not to get married legally or delaying marriage. I don't advocate for delaying marriage purely for financial reasons but it can make sense in certain situations.

As more women join the workforce and become the breadwinning partner (as is often the case for women physicians), these laws can seem antiquated and often work against us. I am not suggesting that you never get married. But it may make a lot of sense to delay marriage for some time. There are a few, mostly financial, perks of cohabitating without signing a marriage certificate. For certain situations, staying unmarried may be the best move.

Read the pros and cons of unmarried couples on the White Coat Investor.

Unmarried Couples: Financial Pros and Cons

Love, Marriage, and a Legal Contract

Since the engagement, everyone has been asking, “So, when's the wedding?” When most people think of engagements and weddings, the legal aspect of marriage is not the first thing that comes to mind. But saying “I do” is a legal contract. That's one of the reasons why we are happily engaged but not planning to be married anytime soon.

The fact that marriage is a legal contract isn't the only factor shaping our decision. In fact, here are the reasons in no real order:

  • Marriage penalty tax
  • M is divorced and has a child from a previous marriage
  • Neither of us really feel like blowing money on a wedding
  • I have 6 figure student loan debt
  • We are trying to start a family

Marriage as a Legal Contract

Marriage is a legal contract and nothing more. People add the other stuff– mainly the religious part (we aren't particularly religious but our parents are). Don't get me wrong. I fully respect the institution of marriage and the commitment and all that it entails. It's just that legal marriage isn't the necessity it was for women as it is today.

The Marriage Penalty Tax Does Exist

Most people think you get a tax break by getting married. It depends.

Most people don't realize that the married filing jointly tax brackets are not double the single brackets. Depending on how much you and your spouse make, you may actually pay a marriage penalty tax. This mainly occurs when you both make a similar income. The marriage bonus mainly applies to couples where one spouse makes a lot less or is a stay at home parent.

Note: Since this post went live, there was a major overhaul in the tax code in 2018. The “penalty” is much smaller now.

The Divorce Rate Is Not Zero

Then there is the possibility of divorce. Divorce rates are going down and are lower among doctors (but higher among female physicians), but most of us still have a 30%-ish chance it won't work out.

Would you sign a contract that said things don't work out in 30% or more cases in which case you may lose half of your retirement and possibly a % of your future income? Of course not!

But that's what a marriage contract is.  For some reason, all logical reasoning goes out the window when it comes to the marriage contract and nobody thinks they will be in that 30%.

Of course, there are lots of benefits to being married – spousal Roth IRA, unlimited gifts to each other, and double the federal estate tax limit to name a few.

Division of Property

Divorce laws are state specific and how they “split things up” falls into two categories – community property and equitable state. In a community property state (Alaska, Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin), any assets (and debts) acquired during the marriage are considered to be equally owned by both parties. In an equitable state, the more common type, anything acquired during the marriage is considered the property of the  spouse that earned it.

Spousal Support

Then there is spousal support or alimony. In some states, while a divorce is in process, you may have to pay pendente lite support, or basically, alimony until the divorce is finalized and then pay actual alimony. Alimony laws vary by state in terms of how much and how long. Any high income earner should seriously consider a pre-nuptial agreement prior to marriage.

Blending Families Can Be Complicated

Bring in kids from a previous marriage and that can complicate things more. Laws are also state specific for child support and generally do not consider the income of a new spouse. No matter what your new family looks like, blended family finances are important to consider carefully.

Final Thoughts on Marriage As a Legal Contract

Marriage means different things to different people. It also means something in the eyes of the law.

Before you rush down the aisle, it's important to consider how marriage will impact your finances and family.

Ask yourself questions like:

  • Do we need a prenup? (yes!)
  • Who else would be impacted by our marriage?
  • Do we understand how marriage could impact our taxes?

You can also check out this checklist for blended family finances to get the conversation started. And, consider delaying marriage or not getting married. Unmarried couples are becoming more commonplace now.

While these discussions might not seem romantic at first, it's another way to commit to your future together.

What do you think? Did you consider marriage as a legal contract before getting married?

The Misunderstood Gift Tax: What You Should Know

When it comes to money and building wealth, the gift tax is often misunderstood. Let's drill down to the bottom of this "gift tax" and find out everything you need to know.

What is a Gift Tax?

The 2023 annual gift tax limit is $17,000 per person or $34,000 per married couple. What do these limits actually mean? It means that a person can give away $17,000 to anyone and to as many people as they would like without having to file IRS form 709 with their taxes.

The reason there is a gift tax is to prevent wealthy folks to give away large swaths of their money to avoid estate taxes at death. Gifting, however, is still a great way to reduce your estate tax limit if you happen to have that much money. The 2023 federal estate limit before incurring taxes is $12.92 million per person or $25.84 million per married couple. It’s also important to note that married couples can share this estate limit. When one partner dies, the other partner may have their $12.92 million plus whatever the other partner didn’t fully use.

What is a Gift?

So you understand the general premise of the gift tax, but there's another important piece of the puzzle: understanding how the IRS defines a gift. A gift is anytime there is a transfer of cash or property without receiving something of equal or fair market value in return. Many of us give gifts to friends, family, co-workers, and staff. But we don't generally buy gifts that cost more than $17,000 (if you do, let me know how I can be friends with you!). The gift limit generally applies toward family members. If Allison gives her son Tim a home that is worth $200,000, then she has given him a gift of $200,000.

While this scenario is unlikely, it is becoming more common for parents to help children with affording homes. Here's another scenario in which the gift tax matters: If Allison sells Tim a home for $50,000, but it is worth $200,000, then Allison gave Tim a gift of $150,000. Another gift scenario that many folks may not be aware of are loans to friends and family that are interest free or below the IRS Applicable Federal Rate. The IRS views these as gifts, not loans. So if you would like to loan money to a friend or family member, you must charge them a minimum amount of interest and report it on your taxes.

Married Couples and the Gift Tax

Married couples, rejoice! One notable perk of being married is the ability to give each other unlimited gifts to your spouse. This only applies, though, if your spouse is a U.S. citizen. If your spouse is not a U.S. citizen, then you are limited to giving them $175,000 a year (in 2023). But wait! Maybe you've heard there's a limit. This limit doesn't involve gifts between spouses, but rather when one spouse or the couple gives a gift to someone else. Here's how it works: The $34,000 per married couple gift limit comes into play when the gift comes from one spouse's bank account but is from the couple. For example, Carol and Jim are married. Carol gives $20,000 to her daughter Janet. $20,000 is over the $17,000 gift limit for an individual. So that would be an issue. However, since Carol is married, the gift can be from the couple and falls within the $34,000 limit. You are supposed to file this "split gift" on IRS Form 709.

The Gift Tax: Misunderstood

Notable Exceptions to the Gift Tax

There are exceptions to the gift tax limit. Phew! Here's some of the most common exceptions: We all know that donations to qualified non-profit organizations don't incur a tax. So do gifts to political organizations. Payments made directly educational institutions for tuition for private school, college etc. are also exempt from the gift limit. Another notable exception is direct payments for medical care. To recap, these exceptions include:

  1. Gifts to non-profit organizations
  2. Gifts to political organizations
  3. Tuition
  4. Direct payments for medical care

Children and the Gift Tax Limit

The gift limit mainly comes into play for us when it comes to funding our children's education. Many of us contribute to a 529 plan to pay for college. Did you know that your contributions to a 529, ESA, and perhaps a UTMA are all subject to the annual gift limit? One exception to the annual limit is the ability to frontload your child's 529 with 5 years worth of contributions. This means you can contribute $85,000 (5 x $17,000) or $170,000 if married (5 x $34,000) at once. You won't be able to contribute again for 5 years. Note: That this means you have used up the gift limit for all gifts, such as funding an ESA, UTMA, etc.

You're Unlikely to Pay the Gift Tax

Very few of us will ever need to worry about actually paying a gift tax. Even when you go over an annual limit and file IRS Form 709, all it means is that you are reducing your federal estate limit by the amount you over-gifted. In other words, a gift tax is not calculated until you die. In which case, you won't care about owing anything anyway.

What does this actually look like? Let's suppose that you gave your daughter Susan $50,000 and filed Form 709 for the $33,000 that was over $17,000 limit. This means that your federal estate limit is now $11.58 million MINUS $33,000. Clearly, there is still plenty left!

Final Thoughts on The Gift Tax

Tax law is complicated. The rumors and myths that swirl around it muddy the waters even more. However, most of us can breathe a sigh of relief. It would be unlikely for the gift tax to apply to us. Still, arming yourself with accurate information and making sure you know the exceptions to the gift lax laws should help you see through the speculation around gift taxes.

Rethinking Emergency Funds

Go on any major finance forum or site and the old adage is to stash 3-6 months of expenses towards an “emergency fund” before investing and saving for other purposes. Let's define an emergency fund first.

Well, that's the problem right there. There are different definitions of what an emergency fund is used for, here are a few:

  • Unexpected expenses
  • Job loss
  • Car issues
  • Home repairs
  • Medical emergencies
  • Pandemic

In my opinion, there are actually very few things that are truly unexpected like job loss and medical emergencies.  But even with the latter, one should know their health insurance plan and deductibles and have an idea of what a true medical emergency will cost. If you own a home – home maintenance and occasional repairs are expected and one should have a fund for that. If you have a car, regular maintenance and occasional repairs are also expected and one should have a fund for that. Death, disability and divorce are among the large ticket emergencies but that's what insurance is for.

Dave Ramsey's popular get out of debt plan has saving for a small emergency fund of $1,000 as it's first step before attacking the debt. I think his baby step plan is sound advice in terms of order of attack but doesn't quite fit for high income and stable earners like doctors.

Big Law Investor has a strong argument for why high-income earners don't need a traditional emergency fund, at least right off the bat. And Millennial Money has a nice checklist to help you decide if you need a traditional emergency fund in cash, summarized here with my take on it.

  1. Do you have a stable job? The good news is that physicians have incredible job stability.
  2. Ability to have additional income opportunities. Most physicians can easily hustle to work extra shifts and moonlight if there is a need for more income.
  3. Investments you could sell if you needed. Never a good idea to withdraw from your retirement accounts, but many of us have a taxable account that we can draw upon. I never recommend taking out a loan from your 401(k), but it can be tapped in true emergencies.
  4. Quality insurance coverage. I always recommend insuring against financial catastrophes only (life, disability, divorce, liability, auto, home)- doctors can generally self-insure the rest (like, you don't need to buy that insurance for your phone). In addition, most of us (really, all of us should) have disability insurance but most have a 3-6 month waiting period to get benefits. This is definitely a reason to have at least that much saved in expenses to get you through that waiting period.
  5. High credit card limits. Most of us can leverage our available credit in true emergencies until we can figure out how to obtain the money (extra shifts, investments, etc). Obviously going into a credit card is never a good idea, but they are available if need be.

So what am I doing?

We are currently debt-free (2019). We have 1-2 months of expenses in our checking account and “the rest” in our taxable brokerage account at Vanguard. We invest aggressively 90/10 stocks/bonds. We just consider it a part of our overall portfolio. We have enough that it'll still be more than sufficient if the market drops and we need to pull some out.

However, our first likely source of “cash” might be a loan against our eQRPs, our self-directed retirement account that we use to invest in real estate.

The beauty of personal finance is the personal part. Guidelines are nice, but one should really examine and question if the advice is right for you.

How much is in your emergency fund? What is it for? 

ICE: The Legacy Binder Everyone Needs

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This is a repost about creating a Legacy Binder for your family and loved ones. Every year, the ICE binder goes on sale (25% off) the first week of January to encourage you to take action. This year the sale begins January 1, 2020 and ends January 8th.

One of the first financial to do's is to protect your income and dependents through life and disability insurances. But do you have a will? Would your spouse and loved ones know what to do when you pass? Do they know how to access your accounts and other important documents? That's why you need a legacy binder. Death planning is, unfortunately, the high priority item that rarely gets done before your loved ones need it. It's probably due to a combination of thinking you will have plenty of time to get to it and avoiding thinking about your demise.

Start Your Legacy Binder with a Letter of Instruction

Your loved ones will reel from your death. Hopefully, you are adequately insured so they can take enough time to grieve and sort out your matters (and pay for counseling). Do you want them to be mired in tracking all your accounts, passwords, and other important paperwork? I'm guessing no. Make those logistics the easy part of dealing with your death. How? I recommend creating at the minimum a “Letter of Instruction.” This is an informal document (not the will) to guide the executor of your estate and your loved ones on important information that is in addition to your will. You can create this document yourself to ground your loved ones in all of the essentials.

What goes in a Letter of Instruction?

Make sure it includes the following information:

  1. Legal documents. Specify the location of all important legal documents they may need to handle your estate. These include the will (the original copy), social security card, birth certificate or passport, marriage and/or divorce papers, property deeds, automobile titles, etc.
  2. Financial information. Provide a list of all your financial accounts and account numbers: bank accounts, brokerages, retirement accounts.
  3. Passwords to your accounts. Make sure to include passwords for financial information, email, social media. I highly recommend using a password manager such as LastPass. This is what we use. In case you didn't know, Facebook allows you to name your legacy contact.
  4. Burial instructions. Tell your loved ones the exact details, including the name of the cemetery and plot location. Or if you desire to be cremated, be sure to include instructions as to how you want your ashes distributed. If you are a veteran, you may wish to look into being buried at a National Cemetery.
  5. Contacts. A list of family members (and your relationship to them–basically a family tree) and friends you would like to be notified of your death. Phone numbers and addresses are helpful in addition to email addresses.
  6. Policies. List all life insurance policies. Keep a copy of the policy page and the beneficiary designations. We use LastPass to store all our important policy pages.
  7. Tax information. Give the location of recent income tax returns and any necessary accounting information.
  8. Debts. Make a list of any outstanding debts.
  9. Professional contacts. Provide contact information for your CPA, attorney, insurance agents, etc.

The In Case of Emergency Binder

If you're like me, you'd be more likely to do this with a fill-in-as-you-go workbook:

Chelsea of Smart Money Mama's developed this In Case of Emergency Binder (ICE) for her own family to get organized in the event of, well, an emergency.  Emergencies include not only death, but a natural disaster or severe illness. I purchased her ICE binder in 2018 and, of course, have been slow to finish this important document. I did finally get in touch with an attorney about having our estate plan documents reviewed since we moved states over a year ago and have since moved states again.

Make this one of your family's financial goals for 2020. And once it is completed, store this document in your estate plan binder and digitally. LastPass is not only a password manager for your whole family but it can store digital documents securely.

Final Thoughts on the Importance of a Legacy Binder

Whether you purchase a pre-made legacy binder, work with a legal professional to create one, or design your own, get it done. Not next year, not in the next six months. Make a commitment to yourself and your family to start your legacy binder right away. No one wants to think about their death, but it is a fact of life. A legacy binder protects your loved ones and should offer you the ultimate peace of mind knowing that your wishes will be respected and your loved ones will be cared for after you're gone.

Is your family prepared in the event of your untimely death? If not, get started!

Negotiate Your First Attending Job: A 6-step Guide

This is a guest post by Dr. Linda Street. Dr. Linda Street is a Certified Life Coach with a focus on Negotiations, a Board-certified Obstetrician and Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist, blogger, speaker and Founder/admin of NegotiatHER facebook group.

Up until now, your entire medical education has been an uphill climb competing for a few choice spots.  Shifting gears from vying for that coveted position at your ideal program to interviewing for your first job is a complete 180-degree turn.  This is one of the most important financial choices you will make. How much you earn directly correlates to how much you can save/invest/spend etc. AND is the jumping point for all future salary increases.

So now that I’ve convinced you this is important, how do you do it? 

The most crucial step to nailing a negotiation is preparation. Preparation begins with finding the right job (or two if you want more leverage).  Next comes offers. What about your offer do you like? What don’t you like? Look at it from the lens of your needs, then go back and look at it to gain insight on your potential employer’s needs to help frame your negotiation.   Next, follow these 6 steps.

Ace the negotiation before you walk into the door (or bomb it…) 

90% of negotiation is mindset. Managing your mind is essential.  Stick with me. Let’s look at a tale of two docs. 

  • Doctor A is terrified of negotiating.  She is convinced she’s bad at it. She thinks they won’t give her any more than the initial offer so why bother.  Doc A isn’t sure she deserves any more money and is glad they’re offering her a job and not seeing her as the imposter she thinks she is.  She is likely to take their first offer and call it a day. 
  • Doctor B hasn’t negotiated before either, but she knows she can figure things out.  She knows the value she brings and shows up with confidence. Doc B feels like this is important enough to do her homework and get the best deal possible.  

These two docs have the same skill set.  Who do you think gets the better deal? Who do you want to hire? 

Doctor B comes out ahead for two reasons, 

  1. She asks for what she’s worth and she expects she’ll get it.
  2. She exudes confidence and that makes her employer WANT her more which makes them more likely to respect her requests.  Wouldn’t you want a confident partner who can stay collected under pressure?

If you need help with this spend some time writing out everything you have to offer and why they would be lucky to have you.  If you need more help, consider hiring a coach. This is not the place to pinch pennies and the return on your investment will be worth it.  Your mindset sets the stage for the entire process.

Don’t accept a Corolla on a Tesla Budget 

Know your worth.  If you walk in with no idea of what you SHOULD be being paid you will have absolutely no idea whether your offer is good or bad.  You don’t want to be offered a 5th percentile salary and say yes just because it dwarfs your PGY-4 paycheck.  It also may not serve you to walk in fresh out of training asking for a salary in the 99th percentile.  So due diligence is key.  

Great resources include: 

  • Co-residents who recently graduated (the stigma against discussing money has got to stop!) and faculty in your training program. 
  • Survey-based data such as 

Having an idea of what you would like to make BEFORE you have a job offer is a great way to look at this objectively before your brain is constrained by an offer in hand. Write this down, aim for no lower than the 50th percentile for your field (better yet aim for the 75th!).  Richard Shell, a professor at Wharton Business School and author of “Bargaining for Advantage: Negotiation Strategies for Reasonable People” teaches that JUST by having higher expectations people on average negotiate a higher amount.

The only failure is not asking

We’re brought up to think failure is kryptonite for eery type A medical brain.  But what if it wasn’t? What if failure was just learning one way that didn’t work and then going back and asking a different way? The only failure in negotiation is not asking.  Do NOT be afraid to ask! Odds are your future group EXPECTS you to negotiate. Their first offer is simply a jumping-off point, view it as such. Look at the contract and evaluate it critically, have a trusted mentor/friend/lawyer help (do NOT skip the lawyer!).  

Where is the salary compared to the goal you set in the last step? What is the bonus structure? How does your compensation change over time (i.e. when do you become partner? What is your buy-in? When can you expect a raise? Does the compensation change from guarantee to production?) This segues nicely into the next step.

Understand how you are paid

A little homework in compensation structures will go a long way. Payment for physicians can come from many different buckets, common ones include 

  • Salary (aka “guarantee”)- this is money that shows up in equal increments in your paychecks.  This doesn’t vary based on what you do. The advantage of a pure salary position is that it is reliable, the caveat is that you get paid the same no matter how hard you work.
  • Production based- this comes in two flavors, collections (impacted by collection rates, payer mix, lag time) or work relative value units or wRVU.  wRVU is a standardized measure assigned by CMS that is based on the encounter or procedure you are billing. Your employer will then assign a certain dollar value to each wRVU which can either be tiered or not and then you’re paid based on how many wRVUs you earn.  There’s a great calculator at https://www.aapc.com/practice-management/rvu-calculator.aspx that lets you calculate how many wRVU’s you get per common CPT codes. If I am speaking Greek here you may need to do some googling, these terms will likely be important in attending life!
  • A Hybrid model- Any imaginable mix of the above with a base salary and a bonus structure based on wRVUs or collections (or quality metrics etc.)

But wait, Money isn’t everything

Know the value of non-financial asks. These are things that can have enormous value to you personally but do not always have a dollar amount associated with them.  Non-financial asks are a great way to sweeten the pot when you are close to making a deal but not quite there. These are things like benefits (health insurance, vision, dental, contribution to retirement accounts) vacation time/PTO, administrative time (for charting catch up, participation in hospital committees, teaching) and things that make your life easier (scribes, etc.)

You’re marrying your job, don’t do it without a prenup 

While many of us want our job to be the perfect fit and last forever, that is typically not the case.  While this varies by specialty, a quick google search reveals that up to 70% of doctors leave their first job within 5 years.  This makes it absolutely essential to plan for this in your contract. Two main considerations are 

  • Malpractice tail insurance. If you are offered an occurrence-based malpractice policy, congratulations you can stop reading.  However, most policies are claims-made which means that if you leave your employer and get sued afterwards you’ll need some coverage.  This is where tail insurance is important, it covers you until a suit can no longer be filed. Depending on what area of the country you practice in and what specialty you are this could vary from being a nuisance purchase to a 6 figure investment. If you are able to negotiate it into your contract it’s simply taken care of.  Some places will foot the entire bill and others will be willing to incorporate tail insurance as an incremental benefit based on how long you stay in your job (i.e. if you stay 1 year they’ll pay 25% of your tail and increase for each year you stay with complete payment if you stay more than say 3-5 years).  
  • Restrictive covenants or “non-competes”.  Enforceability depends on what state you practice in, but the process can be a headache at best and a legal battle at worst. While you’re on the front end it's wise to assume that this will be enforceable and negotiate to either not have one or to limit the distance/time frame.  

This is an exciting time to transition from training into actually doing what you have always wanted to do.  Make sure you can do it with peace of mind by following these 6 simple steps to ensure you’ve negotiated the job of your dreams. 

The Smart Way to Give to Charity – Donor Advised Funds

Giving to charity and to those in need is on most people’s mind this time of year. The new higher standard deductions that came with the recent tax changes have made it more challenging to deduct donations.

I hope no one gives just for the tax break, but paying less taxes is always a good thing. So, what can you do? Consider opening a Donor Advised Fund!

What is a Donor Advised Fund (DAF)?

A donor advised fund is an investment account for charity. You donate cash or investments. You can then donate to charity from the fund and invest it so it can keep growing (and can keep giving).

The year you donate to the DAF counts as a charitable contribution. Then you are free to take your time to give to individual charities. This means you can make larger lump sum donations strategically, say every other year or so, so that you are able to itemize deductions on your taxes.

But the best part, in my opinion, is that you don’t need to keep track of every donation you make for taxes anymore. You got the tax deduction when you donated to the fund. So that is the only transaction you need to keep track of.

Where should I open a DAF?

The 3 DAF custodians I looked at are Vanguard Charitable, Fidelity Charitable and Schwab Charitable. TD Ameritrade currently only allows institutional clients to open one, but at the time of this writing, Charles Schwab bought TD Ameritrade, so that might change soon.

Fidelity & Schwab have initial account minimums of $5,000 and require a minimum donation of $50. Vanguard requires an initial account minimum of $25,000 and requires a minimum donation of $500. All three accept cash and securities, including appreciated securities.

My recommendation is to choose the custodian you already use for your taxable if that’s an option. Most people will probably go with Fidelity or Schwab for the lower initial minimum and lower donation minimum of $50.

The Smart Way to Give to Charity- Donor Advised Funds

Why donating appreciated shares is a win/win

Appreciated shares in a taxable account is subject to either long term or short term capital gains tax. Long term capital gains starts at 15% (up to 20%) + state income tax + 3.8% extra tax for higher-income folks. 

But, if you donate these shares to charity (via a DAF or not), you don’t pay any taxes on it and neither does the charity. They get the fully appreciated shares tax-free if you held the shares for at least a year. And you can write off the amount of the appreciated shares too! So really, it’s a win/win/win in my book.

If you held the appreciated shares for less than a year, you can deduct the original cost (or cost basis) of the shares, not the appreciated value. So it’s best to donate appreciated shares that you’ve owned for more than a year.

Giving via a DAF or via donating appreciated shares is cheaper than “giving cash” due to the tax savings.

Should you give?

Giving is personal. I only started giving relatively recently.

When I was a resident, I said “I'll give when I'm an attending.” That seemed logical – I wasn't making a lot and had student loans accumulating interest every day. Then I became an attending. Then I said “I'll give once I don't have so many loans” or “I'll give once I get some financial footing.”

Somewhere along the way, I discovered Farnoosh Torabi's So Money podcast. I started with her inaugural podcast with guest Tony Robbins. One part really got to me:

People say, ‘When I'm rich, I'll give', they're lying. If you won't give a dime out of a dollar, there's no way you're gonna give a 100 million out of a billion, you're lying to yourself. But if you can do it today, the biggest thing that giving does, is it teaches your brain there's more than enough.

Tony Robbins

Right after I listened to that podcast, I made my first donation – I pledged to give a small amount quarterly to my alma mater Barnard College and specifically earmarked the funds for financial aid. I received generous financial aid in the form of grants and work-study and hope that my small contribution will help someone else attend.

I have since given to:

  • Camp Discovery – a summer camp for kids with severe skin diseases
  • KACFNY – Korean American Community Foundation of NY
  • Village Impact – a foundation that builds sustainable schools in Kenya

My goal for 2020 is to open an account with Vanguard Charitable with at least $25,000. I chose Vanguard since that is where is my taxable brokerage account is, meaning I can easily transfer appreciated shares from my taxable account. One thing I learned this year is that the more money I make, the more impact I can have. Wealthy Mom MD is working on a project where we will donate 50% of the profits to this DAF, I can’t wait to tell you more about it!

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